Monday, November 2, 2009

J.W.

I'm so speechless. I don't know what to say or do right now. Yesterday wasn't a great day. I'd rather not go in the details, but it's just a part of growing up. One thing really helped me today though, it was somewhat of an early birthday present. I read the most greatest poem that inspired me so much. I don't know if he wants his name on here, but I will put his twitter screen name on here.

OneSoulfulNegro is sooo amazing. He's helped me so much and I really love him. He's so great and he inspires me. He's a hero to me and thats actually somewhat of an understatement. It's so crazy how beautiful he is and it's shocking how intelligent he is.

I strive everyday to be like you and live by the encouragement you give me.

Thank you so much.

Thursday, October 29, 2009

Am I Trippin?

I'm upset.
This weekend, Jordan, Nate, my roommate and I were supposed to meet up and go on a trip. Jordan has to work. Nate is having to go visit his mom, and my roommate is going to be with his boyfriend. That's not why I'm upset. I'm pretty understanding most of the time. My roommate's boyfriend lives an hour away. He's trying to get a job closer so he can work here on weekends and in his home city during the week.

The job here has offered him a job and he's going to be working here Sunday through Thursday if he takes it. My roommate has asked me if he can live with us during the week and he'll go home on the weekends.

"NO! I don't know this man."

"he's just going to be resting, it's not like he'll be living here." my roommate says,

"What?" I asked, "If that's the case, what do we do there? On the weekends I'm at Terry's and you're usually with your boyfriend traveling so if that's the case we just rest here also."

"He's considering not taking the job because you don't like him."

"Well he's dumb for making a decision like this anyway. I'm trying my best to be happy for you but you guys have only been together two months! I'm not trying to judge your relationship but don't you think things are moving really fast?"

"Yeah, I do." he replied,

"You really need to think." Then I left.

Maybe I'm over-reacting? I don't know. . .

Friday, October 23, 2009

Date Night

Terry and I went out tonight and I thought it was going to be a regular date night...Nope. We got to the theater and of course I want popcorn. I love popcorn. Who doesn't? Hmmm...well actually my sister Kennedy hates it and Terry does too but that's not a part of this story. Anyway, so these two guys come up behind Terry and I and I turn around and smile. That's how I am. I'm friendly. The taller one is a guy that I know of named Nick the other I don't know, but I've seen him around. I know Nick because he tried to get my number before and I told him no, but he still wanted to be my friend so we speak when we see one another.

"Hey Kendal," he said,

"Hey Nick," I replied,

"How do you know him?" the other guy whispers, "I heard he was a whore."

"You heard he was a whore?" Terry asks, "He's not. But watch your mouth."

"You can't believe everything you hear." I said to him and smiled, "What are you guys going to see?"

"Saw VI." Nick says, "you guys?"

"The Stepfather." Terry replied, "Let's go babe."

I got my popcorn and started walking over to the guy who tears the tickets. They followed us. I felt them both watching me the whole time. I hate that feeling. I think the feeling of being watched is one of the creepiest feelings ever. Then my phone vibrates and I get a text.

It says:
He's pissed.

I say:
Who is this?

Response:
Nick.

Me:
How did you get my number?

Nick:
You're friend Jordan gave it to me a while ago.

Me:
Why is your friend pissed?

Nick:
He thinks I was trying to get at you.

Me:
Oh. Enjoy your movie. :-)

Terry: Who were they?
Me: A familiar face from the club and his boyfriend I guess.
Terry: The tall one wants you.
Me: Does it matter? I want you.
Terry: I'm not the slightest bit worried, but you know you seem to not see things sometimes.
Me: I saw that he was wearing a turtleneck and not just any turtleneck. It said Duckhead on it.
Terry: Don't talk about his clothes. Bugle boy and Duckhead were the shit back in the day.

Nick texts me:
Your boyfriend is lucky.

Me:
No he's not. I am.

We see the movie and it was pretty good by the way and then we stop to at a restaurant that's next to the theater. When we walk in we're seated at a booth right next to Nick and his friend

"Are you fucking kidding me?" the friend says,

"Shh!" I heard Nick saying to him,

Okay so I had a couple of drinks at the theater. That's one thing I love about the theater we went to. They bring you great drinks and yeah they're expensive but Terry was paying. Anyway, as many of you know, I like to express myself when I have had a little liquor.

"I know he wasn't talking about me." I said to Terry,

"Are you getting fish or chicken?" Terry asked me, "I want a steak."

"I want a drink." I said,

Nick:
I think you're trying to make sure I don't get any tonight.

Terry took my phone and thought the message was funny.

I think it's nasty he wants to put his dick in that!"

"Be good." Terry said, "I'd hate to have to choke this little girl."

"I don't even want to eat here anymore," I heard the friend say,

"Then leave." I said,

"I wish niggas would stay at their own table." he said,

"I wish niggas weren't so insecure." I replied, "Actually I wish niggas would get up and just say what the problem is. I haven't done shit to you."

"If I don't get my steak tonight, it's your ass." Terry said, "And you can take that any way you want it."

Nick:
Please calm down.

"I'm sorry babe," I said to Terry, "I haven't done anything to him." Our waiter comes and gets the drink orders and then leaves. Another waiter goes to Nick's table and he's having a conversation with this boy.

"You should have come in to work today. The tips are great." the waiter said,

"I've just been trying to enjoy my day off," he said,

"I heard that."

Terry's the one who brings all of this to my attention. He says to me,

"Are you really in this restaurant arguing with the help on his day off?"

Why Do I have Dumb Friends?

Jordan: I think I'm going to change my name to KEN.
Me: Why? Did you sleep with someone named KEN?
Jordan: No. It's an acronym.
Me: You know that word.
Jordan: Shut up! It stands for Knowing everything knowledgeable?
Me: That's KEK!
Jordan: But it has an N sound.
Me: Do you know what else has an N sound?
Jordan: Think about it. You can go around saying it since your name is Kendal. You're lucky.
Me: No. You're dumb.
Jordan: Solange did it with T.O.N.Y!
Me: Damn, you have a point.
Jordan: Am I still dumb?
Me: If you have to ask, you already know the answer!

Wanna Do It?

It's funny when you look at how things are done sometimes. One night my boyfriend got me to come over and when I went inside, candles were everywhere and he gave me a massage. He said sweet things to me like, "I love you." and "I just want to hold you in my arms." and then he made love to me.

It was great.

Then one day he came home from work, and he saw that I was downstairs watching TV. I love to lounge around in my underwear, so when he walked in the living room he said to this to me:

"Wanna go do it?"

Now the second situation didn't get Terry admission, and he blamed it on me. He said that if I wasn't parading around in my underwear he wouldn't have been tempted. I wasn't parading and the fact of the matter is, he comes home horny anyway. But honestly I was tired and "Wanna do it?" was a question that didn't get me in the mood.

Anyway, I just figured I'd share... I hope you all have a great weekend.

Monday, October 12, 2009

You Can Pay for School but You Can't Buy Class

For those of you who don't know, I work as an assistant to the Chair of the Secondary Education Department at my college. Sometimes I say it really fast so it sounds like Assistant Chair of Secondary Education. Anyway, my boss, Dr. James, yes, many of you may remember him from previous blog entries asked me to do a favor for him. No, it wasn't a sexual favor!
In my department I meet a lot of principals and teachers and well I don't want to get into everything, but basically, I'm filling in for an English teacher for the next week and a half while she deals with some family issues. So school starts at 7:35 and that hurt my feelings because I'm used to high school starting at 8:00.

7:35 = the devil.

I walk in the building dressed in a white dress shirt with black stripes and a black tie with a pair of gray slacks. I got my badge and everything from the office when the school's sheriff stops me. I'm assuming my backpack threw him off.

"You're supposed to wait in the cafeteria until the bell rings at 7:30." he said,

"I thought that was what students did." I said to him,

"Oh, you're a teacher?" He asked, "nevermind." I walked to the classroom and saw that it was organized perfectly. Basically, I had 3 loooong classes ahead of me and I could leave during my planning period which was fourth block. The first class was regular 9th grade English.
 
The kids came in one by one and I called roll, and then we started the lesson. They were on chapter 15 of To Kill a Mockingbird and they told me that the teacher usually lets them sit quietly and read. I'm not that type of teacher. Silence makes me nervous unless a test is being taken so I decided I was going to read to them. Not trying to teach or preach to you guys, but read-alouds have been proven to show that students learn a lot better. It helps them with the correct pronunciation and helps them strive for fluency...anyway, enough of that...so I'm reading to them and they're loving it. I was so inspired and then it happened. I read the word Nigger.
 
"Because I'm not allowed to say that word," one kid who was white said, "can I write on on paper?"
 
"If you're quoting it from the story." I told him, "Because we're educated, we wouldn't use that word in our everyday conversation and that goes for any race."
 
"My dad went to college and he uses it all the time." he said to me,
 
WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO SAY TO THAT?!!?
 
"My dad curses like a sailor and I had to learn that some words just shouldn't be said." I said to him and the rest of the class, "We've got to set examples for our parents sometimes too."
 
"I can't wait to get home to tell my dad he's uneducated." I couldn't help but laugh and I continued reading. They loved being read to. 90% of the class engaged in the discussion and it was great.
 
Then it was time for the next class. Pre-AP 9th Grade English. They all came in they were a little more calm and collected than the previous class. They were supposed to be working on their To Kill a Mockingbird papers, so I went around to each student and went over their paper with them. That class was pretty easy, but the last class was also another Pre-AP 9th Grade English class, so I thought it was gonna be like the second one. Nope.
 
"How old are you?" a girl named Tia asked,
 
"Old enough." I replied, "Have you started on your paper?"
 
"Why do teachers always want to be difficult? Old enough? You could have just said your age. What are you? 19? Oh and yes, I've done my paper. Maybe you should look over it and correct it." She handed me her paper and as soon as I looked at it, I can tell it had already been graded because of the grade at the top.
 
"Why would I look over it?" I asked, "you're teacher graded it already."
 
"Maybe she missed something." Tia said,
 
"You got a 100."
 
"Yep, I'm smart and I got a body. The boys call me thick."
 
"I'll be sure to leave that in a note for your teacher." I said,
 
"She don't wanna know that!" Tia said, "So what's your first name. Do you have a girlfriend?"
 
"I do." I said,
 
"I don't see a ring. It's all fair game until I see a ring, well at least that what my momma says."
 
"Since you know what you're doing why don't you help me." I said,
 
"Anything." she said in a seductive tone,
 
"Let's look over papers and help your classmates,"
 
"Ugh," she said reluctantly, "I guess."
 
After class was over, I was free to go! I was headed toward the front office when Mr. Sheriff stops me again,
 
"Where are you going?" he asked,
 
"To rob a bank." I said,
 
"Let me see your pass." he said,
 
"How many students wear shirts and ties to school?" I asked, "Especially when today is pajama day?"
 
"Oh you're the kid from earlier," he said, "sorry about that."
 
"I'm the teacher from earlier." I said to him, "don't forget now. We're going to try again tomorrow."
 
The class went on like normal and Tia calmed her fast ass down. Today was a pretty good day and I have to do it all again tomorrow.

Tuesday, September 29, 2009

When Terry Met Jackson

Sometimes there are things that you should think all the way through before you do them. Earlier in the year I was dating a guy from Mississippi named Jackson. I’m sure many of you will remember him, well okay maybe not. Anyway, Jackson and I are in the same fraternity and he came in town to see one of his fraternity brothers. He calls me and he says

“Kendal,” he said when I answered my phone, “I’m in town. Come see me tonight.”

“Why?” I asked,

“Because you miss me.” He said,

“And I don’t.” I said,

“Have dinner with me. Come on.”

“Jackson, I have a boyfriend.”

“He can come too.” That right there was when I should have said no. I should have hung up the phone and put Jackson’s number under ‘send directly to voicemail’ but I didn’t. I called Terry and asked him how he felt about dinner tonight with my fraternity brother who I used to date.

“Why?” Terry asked,

“He’s in town and he wants to see me and meet you.”

“If this is what you want to do then sure.”

We met Jackson at a placed called Connors’s at 7:00. I ordered the fish and chips while Terry and Jackson both got steaks. Jackson and Terry were fine at first. They were a bit short with one another allowing me to be the medium but there wasn’t any animosity at the table or anything.

“So Terry what is it that you do?” Jackson asked,

“I work for the Department of Defense.” Terry asked, “What about you?”

“I work for an engineering firm—computer scientist.” Jackson said,

“Baby,” Terry asked me, “did you want another drink?”

“No,” I said, “I’m fine.”

“Did you want me to pay for dinner tonight Jerry?” Jackson asked causing Terry to smile and making me uneasy.

“My name is Terry and no thank you. I can handle it.” They stared at one another with smug expressions.

“This cranberry, pineapple and Grey Goose is great.” I said, “Jackson, how’s your mom? Is she still driving your Sentra everywhere?”

“Yeah, I had to give it to her. I finally bought myself a Maxima.” He said,

“That’s nice,” I said, “I’m sure she’s happy.”

“Yeah she is” Jackson said, “what kind of car do you have Terry?”

“Why does it matter?” Terry asked,

“Just wondering.” Jackson said,

This is not the Jackson I know. Jackson and I were great when we were together then things weren’t so good. So I tried to work and make things better but Jackson became an asshole in the end. Let’s just say it ended with me crying while hundreds of people surrounded me causing me to feel even more stupid.

“Look man,” Terry said as I gulped my drink down, “clearly this is some kind of competition to you.”

“No competition at all.” Jackson stared at Terry with a look of pure disgust,

“That’s been clear to me since we sat down.” Terry said,

“Can we just enjoy dinner?” I asked, “I enjoyed work today. How was work for you Terry?”

“Jackson is there more that you’d like to say?” Terry asked, “You’re making my baby feel uncomfortable, so I’d rather get it all out now. One thing we can’t have is Kendal not enjoying himself.”

“I’m fine.” I said,

“You’re right. We can’t have Kendal upset. I guess the car hit a nerve. You must drive a Honda.”

“I drive a Honda!” I said, “Jackson, I don’t know what’s going on with you but you need to stop. If you really want to know, Terry came in a Range Rover. I thought we were here to enjoy one another. What’s wrong with you?” After I said this, I realized that everyone was looking at me.

“Kendal you know better than to talk to me like that.” Jackson said,

“Is this nigga serious?” Terry said, “Babe, you’re taste in men is bothering me. You really used to date him?”

“Clearly, you’re intimidated.” Jackson said as he stood up, “I’ll take Kendal home.”

If I wasn’t there I wouldn’t have believed it. Terry stood up and all I felt in my heart was fear. I’ve never seen Terry angry nor violent. Jackson stepped closer to Terry like he was going to do something.

“Please stop.” I said, “You’re grown men.”

“I’m not gonna hit this nigga.” Terry said, “I don’t want him to bleed all over his Maxima.”

“Jackson,” I whispered, “you made it clear that you and I were over. Why are being like this? Terry is who I love and want to be with.”

“I don’t think there’s much left to be said then.” Terry added,

“I’m just going to go.” Jackson said,

“I won’t argue with you there,” Terry said,

“Kendal,” Jackson said, “I hope you’re happy. And be careful, old men give you worms.”

“I’m not worried,” I said, “I heard you were giving out things far worse lately.”